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Many guys struggle with knowing where they fit in a girl's life. Is she interested? Does she view you as just a friend? Being able to swiftly determine whether or not a girl likes you can save you a lot of time and make your dating life far more efficient. If you know what you're doing, you can get pretty much any girl to like you. However, some will take way more effort than others. In the end, there are probably better things you can be spending your time on than trying to get a girl to like you who isn't interested in the first place. There are plenty of women out there. Some of them are going to be interested, some aren't. That's just the reality of the situation so the faster you can learn to accept that some girls simple are not and probably never will be interested, the more time you'll have to spend working on girls you have a better chance with. So... how do you tell if a girl is interested? Read Between the Lines Keep an objective head on your shoulders and look at the reality of the situation from an outsider's perspective. If you've repeatedly invited a girl out to do something and she declines while not offering an alternative date to get together, there's a good chance she's not interested. This is especially the case if she never contacts you. As a general rule of thumb, I try to maintain no greater than a 3:1 ratio in terms of how much I initiate communication with a girl versus how much she initiates it. If I find that I've initiated the majority of the last several conversations, I'll ignore her entirely until she contacts me. This is a good filter to guage how interested she is. Will She Do What You Tell Her To? When a woman is interested in a guy, she'll tend to go into "follower" mode when she's around that guy. You can test a woman's level of interest by giving her a few suggestions that border on a command. For example, rather than saying "gee golly, I would really like it if a pretty girl like you would meet me up for a drink sometime," say to her, "come meet me for a drink at Calvin's at 6:30." If she meets you no questions asked or says she can't make it but that she would like to do something sometime, there's a good chance she's interested. If she simply says "sorry, I can't," or doesn't respond at all, then she's probably not interested. What Not to Look For When you're trying to figure out whether or not a girl is interested in you, there are a few signs to ignore because they could just be a mixed signal. Let me give you an example. If you go to a bar to meet a group of friends and a girl who you think might be interested in you is there, don't obsess over how she greets you. In other words, if you go into this bar and she doesn't immediately come up to you to say hi, don't take that to mean she's not interested. Chances are she's just playing it cool around mutual friends and doesn't want to come across as eager. What's more telling is how she behaves around you later in the night once everyone has had a couple of drinks. Another thing to ignore is when a girl is being friendly. Women are friendly to men all the time. Clueless men think this means they're interested in them. This is not typically the case at all. This point is especially important regarding any women you deal with in a business setting. That means your hairdresser, bartender, accountant, dental hygenist, lease manager, etc are all supposed to be nice to you. This doesn't mean for a second that they're interested in you. If you want to guage if any of these women are interested in you, it calls for some advanced flirting and game tactics. The Golden Way of Guaging a Girl's Interest One of the most low-pressure and effective ways of telling whether or not a woman is interested in you is by giving her your number or email address and telling her to text/email you sometime. If she contacts you, it almost certainly means she's interested. If she doesn't, it means she's not interested (most likely) or just really shy (much less likely). But this is pretty much the most fool-proof way to figure out how interested a girl is so use it to your advantage.
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