Well, if she is fresh off a breakup with her boyfriend, one of two scenarios will apply depending on where she is in life and what type of person she is.  Either she will be wanting to take time off and relax from guys for a bit, or she’ll be wanting to get right back under the relationship umbrella where it is cozy and safe and where she is used to being.  You need to try to find out where she is in her life.  Either case, you CAN be with her if you want.  Even though recently single women say they are taking time off, if you play your cards right, you can get her to want to be with you. 

Chances are, she broke up with her boyfriend or the relationship went sour because she wasn’t getting what she wanted or wasn’t having some needs fulfilled.  If you can find out the reasons why the relationship went downhill, you can use it for ammo to deliver the goods that she has been longing for.

The basics come into play here for whatever strategy you plan on taking.  You must flirt with her. Show her you’re interested.  If you need help with flirting, read my article on how to flirt. Make her the center of your attention and give her plenty of it.  That will separate you from the rest of the guys of the outing just having fun and pinpoint you as being interested in her.

Also, be entertaining and funny.  Chances are she is fed up with the seriousness of the relationship stuff and is just looking to have a good time now.  If you show her that the good time she wants to be had can be found with you, then you are well on your way to having her as your very own.  Without coming out and saying it, let it be known that your focus is on her. Be a good time to her and you will attain your prize.

GABRIEL

This is a pretty good question that most men struggle with.  The old standby is dinner, but it leaves too many opportunities for awkward moments if you can’t keep the conversation rolling smoothly. It is also so cliché’ for a first date.

There are a million guys out there who will do the old standard first date dinner.  Be that one that stands out in the crowd. Be different, make her remember you and the date.  Plan something that you can have fun at. Everyone loves to have a good time and have fun. Rarely do you say, "Man I don’t want to go out with that chick. We always end up laughing and having a ball."  Not a lot of fun to be had at a dinner where you just sit and talk.  Use your creativity to plan something where you will get to have fun, but also have the opportunity to talk to each other. So as funny as Tommy Boy may be, a movie date just isn’t the best answer.

Also, there is nothing too terrible about making it a group date for your first one. It takes the pressure off of being a date and the others will chime in and fill the dead moments for you.  Plan a night of Cranium (the board game) between the group.  I know it sounds cheesy, but have you ever played it?  It’s a fun game and lots of laughs, and will give you lots of opportunity to interact with each other and bond because you’ll be on a team.  Buy the game and try it, I won’t steer you wrong.

If you’re committed to doing a solo act for the first date, then if possible, it is always a decent idea to try to have a cocktail or two if your date drinks. It loosens the both of you up and usually makes it a lot easier to let go and have a good time.  A comedy club is usually a decent idea for a good first date. If you have no humor in you, well at least the comedian does, and there is the opportunity for conversation and cocktails if you so choose.

You can also do day-dates like a waterpark or a theme park if you so choose.  But the basics are…….. be different, don’t do the norm, stand out to her, and for god sakes, make sure you do something that will be FUN. They’ll remember that they had a blast with you and keep coming back for more.

GABRIEL