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The Friendship Route

The friendship route is what I like to use when I come across a girl that seems impossible to conquest. It is usually used as a last resort when every other method you’ve tried has failed. If the girl has made it completely clear that she has no feelings for you and never will, it might be time to use this approach. When a girl says she’ll never have feelings for you…….it doesn’t mean shit. Any girl can be yours, it just depends on how far you’re willing to go and how much effort you’re willing to put into it. The friendship method is usually very time intensive and quite often can be very costly as well. Before trying this avenue to capture the object of your heart’s desire, ask yourself, is she really worth it? If she is, press on.

The premise of the friendship route is simple; set out to be her friend, become one of her best friends, then take the back door route to making her fall in love with you. The great thing about this method is that you can spend a lot of time with her in low pressure situations. Being around her won’t feel like dates where it seems like the pressure is sometimes unbearable to do and say the right things. Another great thing about this approach is that you actually get to be friends. So many couples hurdle over the friends stage and jump right into a relationship, thus bypassing the fun of being nothing but friends. I am absolutely convinced that the greatest love of your life will start out as your greatest friend before anything else.

Here are a few general do’s and don’ts of this approach. These will help you be more successful when using this method to obtain the object of your affection.

Do not in any way, shape, or form indicate that you like her as more than a friend. If you do, she’ll see right through the plan and you will be doomed from the beginning. You have to truly sell the fact that you don’t want anything more than a friendship from her. If you convince her that you don’t view her as anything more than a friend, it will help your case immensely when she starts to have romantic feelings for you. We all want what we can’t have. If she thinks that she can’t have you, but is starting to fall for you, she will fall that much harder and want you that much more.

Find out the things she wants in a perfect partner or man, and be those things around her. Now don’t just outright ask her what she wants in a perfect partner. Instead just be observative when she is talking about what she looks for in a guy. You can ask roundabout questions to help obtain more information, but don’t make it obvious that you’re trying to gather information. Once you know what she is looking for in a man, show her that you represent everything she wants in a man. Don’t be obvious about it or go overboard, just occasionally do the things that you know she wants in a good partner.

Become her best friend and shoulder to cry on. If she comes to you with guy problems, listen and be understanding while showing no jealousy whatsoever. Don’t badmouth her guy. That will just turn her away from you. Even if she is pissed at him and badmouthing him, there is still a reason that she is with him. Badmouthing him won’t do anything to boost your stock in her eyes. Now don’t build him up to be the best person on the planet either. Say things like, “I have nothing against Chad. If you like him then I like him. You’re my friend and I want the best for you. As long as he always treats you like a queen and you never feel anything but complete happiness when you’re with him, I know you’re with the right guy.” You’re doing two things right with a statement like that. First, you were a good friend by showing support for her. Secondly, you planted the seed of doubt in her mind as to whether or not she is with the right guy. “Always treating her like a queen and feeling nothing but complete happiness when she is with him,” those are some pretty big standards. C’mon, even in the most fairy tale of romances you can’t expect that to be the case. However, if that phrase doesn’t describe her relationship with this other guy, which it won’t, she will start to wonder if she is actually with the right guy. Your hope is that she will realize her guy isn’t living up to the standards you just laid out for him. But wait a minute…..you treat her like a queen, and she is always completely happy around you….hmmmmmmmmmm!

Always be prepared to show her a good time. No strings attached, no drama, just a damn good time. You want to be funny, charming, chivalrous without making it too obvious that you’re doing so. The good thing about just being friends is that there is no pressure. It will give her a chance to just be herself without a high-pressure relationship-type environment. More than likely her thoughts of boyfriends, relationships, or dates are ones of high-pressure and drama. When she is hanging out with you, there is nothing but fun and good times, all the while she gets to see what an amazing person you are.

Let’s see, she knows you are an amazing person, she has the best time with you, there is no drama with you, you treat her like a queen, she is always completely happy with you, she can tell you anything, she knows you would do anything for her……see what I am getting at here? She may have said that she will never have feelings for you, but guess what? She is, and it’s just a matter of time before she realizes it’s happening.

You should be able to notice when her feelings for you shift from just friends to a little something more. However, keep making her want what she can’t have long enough to seal the feelings that she has started to develop for you. When you feel the time is right, start to move from the friendship level to innocent flirting and slowly escalate things from there. Don’t move too fast or you’ll blow it. If you’re getting good vibes from her, and the feelings are reciprocal, you can open up and tell her your feelings for her. Don’t lay it on too thick, but have a heart to heart talk with her and tell her you’re a little confused because you think you might be starting to have feelings for her. If you’ve played your cards right, you’ll get the same answer in return and all your hard work will have paid off.

Understand that this method isn’t for the impatient or for those who just want a quick piece of ass. This is a long, slow process. However, it does have a very high success rate. If she’s truly worth it to you, and you feel like nothing else has worked, this is the approach to take.

Go forth you befrienders of future lovers, get the girl!

GABRIEL

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