Having A Healthy Sex Life
One of the
biggest identifiers of a healthy relationship is a healthy sex life. I
don’t care what anyone says, if you don’t have a healthy sex life with your
partner, then your relationship is not healthy and is likely to fail. Many
people assume that when you have been with your partner for a long time, you
are in love with each other and the healthy sex life will just fall into place
naturally. This is not how it works. You need to constantly take
active steps to ensure that you have a fun and healthy sex life. In this article, I will
outline some things you can do to make sure that your sex life is up to par and
back on the right track to being amazing.
The first thing you have to do to have a healthy sex life
is………big shocker here, HAVE SEX! I know that life tends to get in the way
and all sorts of things dip into your time that should be spent having sex, but
don’t let it. Set aside time to focus on your sex life with your partner
and let nothing get in the way of it. You may be saying, “no problem, 10
minutes a night, no sweat!" WRONG! Read my article on how to
get women in the mood. You’ll see that it’s just not so simple. You actually have to invest some time to
have a truly healthy sex life. Your woman wants more than just a
"wham bam thank you ma'am" a couple nights a week. You need to
strive for great romantic sex in order to keep her sexually and emotionally
fulfilled. Don't neglect to make the time for this or your relationship
will fail. Trust me.
You need to think of sex as more than just a quick physical
act intended to be a race to orgasm where you are undefeated. Instead,
think of it as a time to bond with your partner and to be close to her while
sharing yourselves at the closest level possible. A time for intimacy
between the two of you is so crucial to a healthy relationship.
As with anything in relationships, communication is the key
between you and your partner. If
you feel like your sex life is suffering a bit, communicate that with
your partner to find out how she is feeling and learn where you may be lacking
in that department. It may be as simple as not giving her enough foreplay
or it may be that sex has just become boring and routine to her. Either
way, you need to communicate to each other your feelings on this. If
there is a problem, isolate it and fix it. You can’t fix what you don’t
know is broken, so talk openly.
Don't be afraid to spice things up a bit. I know you
have heard this a thousand times from relationship gurus, but it is actually
true. If you do the same thing every single Wednesday night and nothing
ever changes, then one of you is sure to get bored. We don’t want to go
through life being bored. We like excitement and fun. If you’re not
excited about your sex life because there is no fun left, you are on borrowed
time in your relationship. Plan a night just for the two of you and get
out of the normal setting. Rent a hotel room and change your scenery.
Get out of the bedroom and switch up on the standard old 2 times a week
missionary position before bed. Enjoy a sex charged night at a hotel room
or weekend getaway every so often. It’s a nice change of pace and will
lend itself to a pretty interesting night.
If you need a few extra ideas on
how to have a little extra fun with
your girlfriend, a good book is 100
Great Sex Games for Couples. It's
an easy read that provides a wide
range of ideas. It's also fairly cheap
in comparison to most sex books.
Get some massage oils or toys that your partner may be willing
to try. Don’t come home with a two foot double headed dildo, but
introduce the thought of an approachable vibrator that you can use in your
night escapades. Try role playing or just talk to each other about your
fantasies and act them out for each other. The bottom line is that you should explore new avenues
in your sexual relationship and keep it exciting. I could turn this topic
into a book, which means I can’t list everything in this article. But I
can promise you that you absolutely must constantly work to keep your sex life
healthy and interesting. If you don’t, your relationship WILL suffer and
ultimately fail.
Go forth young socks rockers, rock their socks!
GABRIEL
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