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How to Keep a Relationship Hot

This is a very important topic for all of you in a relationship. Many relationships tend to fizzle out and lose their oomph. I am going to tell you how to keep a relationship going strong by keeping the passion alive.

First, both you and your partner both need to understand a couple of key concepts. The honeymoon phase will end. There is a big difference between the feeling of falling in love and the mature feelings that come along with actually being in love. They are completely different stages in the game. Often, these feelings are not distinguished, which can result in a demise of the relationship.

In the beginning stages of a new relationship, there is the honeymoon phase. We all love this phase. It is the time when we are absolutely crazy about the other person. Often, they are the only thing on our mind. We can’t get enough of them. During the honeymoon phase, you’re giving flowers, surprises, and little romantic gestures to please the object of your affection. You are pursuing them, courting them, and trying to win their heart. These times are very passionate and exciting.

When they are constantly on your mind, you can sit for hours with them and just talk about everything under the sun. It’s exciting! There is nothing boring about this phase, but believe me when I tell you that it doesn't last. Now I’m not saying that it dies completely. You can take steps to bring back some of the feelings each of you had during the honeymoon phase. But the super strong excitement of the honeymoon phase does wane, no matter what.

The sad thing is that often one of the two people in the relationship thinks that they don’t love the person anymore because the intense feelings from the honeymoon phase have subsided. It happens so often. Do yourself a favor. Make sure you pick a partner who knows the facts about the differences of the honeymoon phase and actually being in a healthy, loving relationship. If you’ve already picked a girl that thinks the wrong way, try to educate her on the simple facts of relationships. Hell, make her read my articles! Just maybe have her skip the ones on how to seduce a girl you just met at the bar.

Let's focus on how to keep your relationship hot in both phases: the honeymoon phase and the relationship phase. Keeping the relationship hot during the honeymoon phase should come pretty easily. But I will tell you how to prolong the honeymoon phase.

You will undoubtedly want to spend every waking moment of your life with this person during this honeymoon phase. It will almost be physically painful not to be around them because they are the center of your world. It’s normal to feel this way. However, you should realize that you will quickly use up all of your honeymoon phase mojo if you spend too much time around her.

For example, let's say you have 1,000 hours of honeymoon phase excitement in both of you. If you spend eight hours per day with each other, you will be bored after about 4 months together. If you can stretch this to every-other-day instead, you have essentially doubled the honeymoon phase. Now you get to enjoy eight exciting months of the super-passionate honeymoon phase. There really is truth to the saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

There is something to be said about the anticipation that builds when you don’t get to see your partner for a while. If you want to keep the relationship fresh for a longer period of time, space out how often you see each other. Don’t try to learn every single thing about them the first three nights with 14 hour conversations. You shouldn't give up the rest of your friends for them. If you can fight the urge to be with them every single time that you want to be (which is all the time), you’ll be much happier. Save a little for later, she’s not going anywhere and neither are you. Trust me, it will make for a stronger relationship in the long run.

Ok, now to the important stuff. How to keep things hot after the honeymoon phase ends. Don’t ever think that you’re so secure in your relationship that you’re never going to lose her. Wrong. I know from experience. I, young slayers of virtue, am a stud. I’m hot, successful, and good in bed. I know all the right things to say. I have everything going for me but have managed to lose countless girls simply by assuming I couldn't lose them. I didn’t do the things necessary to keep bringing back some of the occasional feelings of the honeymoon phase.

Relationships ultimately get very complacent and very humdrum with every day life. However, you have to continue to do the little things to keep it spiced up. I use my outlook calendar. As cheesy as it sounds, I actually schedule something at least every three weeks to do for my partner when I am in a relationship. It doesn’t have to be over the top. Do anything along the lines of the stuff you did when pursuing them in the honeymoon phase. A nice little surprise of any kind will go a long way. If you don’t schedule it out, you’ll forget to do it completely. Take the five minutes to schedule out your next year of reminders. Unless of course you like losing the woman that you love, then don’t worry about it.

Another thing that is crucial to keeping your relationship hot is always listening to them. Don’t get caught up in always asking “so how was your day?”, and then never really listening to their answer or bothering to probe for more. You have to force yourself to give a shit; otherwise she'll turn to Mandingo down at the club for her needs.

Never stop going on dates. Ask her out on a date at least once a month or more if you can. Don’t stop dating. As soon as you do, you're on a fast track to break-upville.

Try to eat dinner together every night. If you get to the point where you are both eating on your own separate times, you are slowly becoming individuals and taking the bond out of your relationship. Take the time to eat together and actually talk. Talk about whatever it is that made you love her in the first place.

Complement them. You must complement them daily. Women need to feel good or pretty or loved. If you stop complementing them you are doomed. At least once a day, just give them a heartfelt compliment.

Have a sex life. You must have a sex-life or your relationship is doomed. Read my other articles on how to have a good sex life. Don’t let your idea of foreplay turn into "Ok, I’m ready, it’s halftime, take your panties off!" Women aren’t wired that way. Your sex life and ultimately your relationship will suffer if you aren’t taking the time to have foreplay. Men are wired to always be ready to have sex. Nine times out of ten, the woman has to be turned on to the sex mode through foreplay.

Bottom line is this: don’t take her for granted and don’t get too comfortable. Make it a point to continually bring back some of the things that made you have those super intense feelings of love during honeymoon phase. If you don’t…….Mandingo is always waiting for her.

GABRIEL

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