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How To Fight And Handle Her Bitchiness

This article should prove most valuable to all you relationshipers. Your woman, I don’t care what you say…will at one time or another, be a bitch. The two of you will at one time or another……fight. Just keep it in check and not let it get out of control like a wildfire. The key to doing this is how you react and handle yourself when she acts like a bitch or the two of you fight.

This is tough for us to do. We are men. We don’t back down from confrontation…..ever. We don’t like to swallow our pride, and we hate admitting we are wrong… even if we are. It’s almost impossible to say sorry for something you damn well know you’re not sorry for and would do again in a heartbeat. But these are some of the things you will need to do to keep the upper hand in the relationship. You are normally going to have to be the one to do it because almost all women are so damn stubborn that it's ridiculous. They can know they are wrong and still hold a grudge to the grave. It's up to you to bring it down to a level one security risk.

Remember this and remember this well. You can lose the battle and win the war.

There are some basic rules to remember. First, every action has an equal and opposite reaction. I know you’ve heard it a million times, but it is true. If some dude comes up in your face and gets aggressive with you and screams that you’re an asshole, odds are you’re going to come right back at him with some aggression and maybe even dot his eye. The same goes for women. If they come at you with their bitchy "I don’t want to listen I just want to yell" tone, you’ll be tempted to interrupt (more than likely loudly) and come right back at her.

If you really want to have the power and ultimately win the fight, hold your tongue. It may not look like you won the fight on paper, but we both know who wins if you get what you want and keep the bitchiness time to somewhat of a minimum. I promise that if you come back at her, then the fight will only escalate. What could have been a 20 minute fight with an hour cool down period will now become an hour or more fight and possibly a couple of days to cool down completely. It could ultimately end up in ending the relationship. If you are fighting all the time, then one of you will realize this and want out. We want to be around people we enjoy being around, not vice versa. Don’t ever think you are so secure in your relationship that it can’t end. Trust me, you’re not. I know from experience.

The relationship can also immediately die by a case of foolish pride where one whips out the big guns in the fight……the old “I don’t know if this is working out”, or the “ I want to break up” tactic and the other calls the bluff and bam, like that…. It’s over. Never, never, I repeat, never use this tactic unless you are 100% serious about it.

Sometime when you two are not fighting, agree to never make these threats unless it is completely sincere. When couples use this threat when they don’t mean it, all they are saying is that “I feel very, very strongly about my point and whatever it is we are arguing about” But there are much better ways of expressing how important it is to you rather than making threats. How about saying…. “I feel very, very strongly about my point.” What a novel idea.

The break up, get back together, break up, get back together routine will ultimately end a relationship… and that’s not proving your point so strongly now is it? Try to come to an agreement in peace time that your first effort to each other won’t be to cut bait and run, but to work through it however you need to. If you get to a point to where your first thought is "I want to break up" rather than "What is it going to take to get past this," your relationship is on a fast track to ending, trust me. So have each other commit to the principle of not making empty threats while you are still getting along. Remind her of your commitment to this agreement in the heat of the battle if she goes the other way.

As cliché as this sounds……communication is the key to a relationship. If you’re pissed off that you think she is being a little too flirtatious while out with your or her friends, there are two ways to go about solving this. I’ll list them both below with the outcomes.

1.   "So, did you have a good time tonight? It sure looked like it, the way you were all over Chad. You sure you don’t want to be with him?"---- That may not sound too bad to you really. It isn’t that aggressive of a statement. But believe me when I say she’ll take it like you said "Why don’t you just fuck Chad you dirty slut!!!" You didn’t communicate your concerns to her. You came at her in an aggressive way and every action has an EQUAL and opposite reaction. She will turn her ears off to you immediately and will not work one bit to stop her behavior for the dick that said that to her. Why should she? It may even cause her to do it more after the four hour argument you have about it.

2.   "Baby, I know you love me and I’m sure it’s just me being a little insecure because I never want to lose you, and please don’t take offense to this but sometimes I feel like you are a little too flirtatious. It makes me feel like you are looking elsewhere. Am I totally off on this or is it something you’d be willing to work on for me?"--- This statement will more than likely take her by surprise, but it won’t piss her off. More than likely she’ll be very adult about it and either explain or apologize and acknowledge your concerns and work to do what makes you happy. After all, she is with you and loves you. She’ll want to do what it takes to make you happy as you with her. That’s it, good communication, no escalation, no arguing, no fake break up….. and you get what you want.

This could be a very potentially long article, but I will try to sum up for you. Don’t let it turn into an argument…..ever. As soon as the voices get louder, both sets of ears turn off and nothing gets accomplished. LISTEN…even if she is totally wrong and screaming at the top of her lungs. Then communicate, talk, normally back to her about how you feel. Remember, every action has an equal and opposite reaction. If you don’t let that rule apply to you and come back at her in her way, chances are she will then come back at you your way… the quiet, listening, adult, wanting to work it out way.

One last thing, women are moody creatures….. it’s just how they’re made. They will be the biggest bitches on the planet from time to time for no reason whatsoever. Just out of the blue, they will be demon spawn hell bent on attaining your soul.   If you don’t give any fuel to the fire, it will die out quickly. Just stay the fuck away. Don’t feed it, and it will quickly pass. Give it a little food and it will grow into a terrible creature.

If these tactics don’t work for you and you are following them to the letter, then get out. She is not in an adult enough place to have a mature relationship or she is just too selfish, bitchy, or uncaring to be in one. You’ll be better off in the longrun finding someone who is.

Go forth young relationship tamer, be the bigger man and win the war.

GABRIEL

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