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Every guy could use a little creative help with being romantic or pulling off little surprises for a woman. You can search out the internet for ideas, but I like to try to be creative on my own. Odds are if you’ve read ideas posted on the internet, so has she. If that happens, she won't think nearly as high of you. I will tell you a few of the things I have done and give you some pointers on how to formulate surprises for a girl. First, if you are just starting to date, and are in the honeymoon phase, you will be tempted to do as many of these things as quickly as you can. You’ll want to do one or more a week because you are just that crazy about her. Don't do it! Spread them out; keep them in your arsenal. If use all of your surprises on her too quickly, you’ll really struggle for new ideas in the future. This will give her the impression that the relationship is stalling quicker than it actually is. If she is used to over-the-top attention and then it quits, she’s going to think you're losing interest in her. Spread these surprises way out, especially for the big ones. It will help you keep the relationship going strong for longer. I will list some of the things that I have done, but it is super important that you try to customize your surprises so they tie into your relationship. Keep your ears open. If she mentions that she loves the new fragrance “Whoreaplenty,” tuck it away back into your memory bank and don’t even let on that you heard. When you have a surprise, make sure you incorporate that into it. When she finds out that you actually pay attention to her and listen to her and act on it, it will speak volumes to her. Always try to incorporate a personal feel to the gesture. If you make it meaningful to your relationship rather than just a generic type of surprise, it will mean a lot more to her. Also, try to be as creative as possible. Flowers are nice for a quick surprise, but try to be as creative as you possibly can. It will get you far more points in her eyes.  Here's an example. One time for Valentines Day, I bought a bunch of balloons and a helium inflator. I waited until my girl fell asleep that night and then went to work. I wanted her to wake up to the surprise. I inflated all the balloons and weighed them down using various lengths of string with Hershey’s Kisses at the bottom. Some were at eye level, some were at knee level; you get the idea. On each of the balloons I wrote a reason why I was crazy about her. Also, throughout the apartment I had several different cards, each with a meaningful message written on it. When you’re going to go big, go big. It went well.I have used the wake-up trick several times. Another time, I wrote a bunch of romantic messages on several dozen Post-It notes. I woke up in the middle of the night just started plastering them all over the mirrors of the bathroom, her car; anywhere they would stick. It only took about five minutes to stick them since I had written them out earlier in the day. On each one I listed a funny moment or special moment from our relationship. It went well. Another time I led her all over town on a scavenger hunt. I called it the "search for love". We had once talked about searching for love your whole life and being ran on a wild goose chase. I started her at one place and had a poem or something leading her to the next spot which was a phone booth. I had a note taped to the bottom of it with a number to call; the number was my Dad who had a message to give her. He told her how he’s never seen me happier and how great of an addition to our life she was, and then he directed her to the next spot. The next spot was where we first met, and the manager of the place gave her the next clue. I took her all over town. This is where you can get creative. One of the places was a movie rental place. When she gave the code word, the worker gave her a prepaid copy of "When a Man Loves a Woman", and sent her off to the next place. Another key element is that I led her to one of her friend's apartment. If you can let her friends see how amazing you are being to her, they will like you and you will have them on your side. Anyways, I sent her several places but ultimately led her back to her apartment. While she was out all that time, it gave me time to get the apartment set up with flowers and candles. When she walked back into the apartment, it was all set up and I was hiding behind the door. When she walked in, there was a card talking about even if it feels like you are searching all over on a wild goose chase, sometimes love is right in front of your eyes. When she finished reading the card, I hit play on the remote for the stereo that had our song playing. Then I danced with her and told her I was right there in front of her, and that there was no need to look anymore. It went well. And just so you know, you don’t always have to go big. A well placed note a few rolls under the toilet paper that she will see as she unrolls will speak volumes. So too will when she is in the shower you take a towel, warm it up in the dryer, and have it ready for her when she gets out. Its little things like that at well placed times that will go a long way for you. As for the special occasions like her birthday, make it all about her day. Go way overboard, and make the whole day all about her. On days like anniversaries you, need to focus on the "us" part of it. Bottom line is to be creative and do something. A little something is so much better than nothing at all. Go forth young relationship experts. If you come up with any creative panty-droppers, feel free to send them to old Gabriel so I can add them to my repertoire…or let you know if they suck. Good Luck. GABRIEL
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